The Dark, Final, End Stage of Alcoholism

The Dark, Final, End Stage of Alcoholism

Untreated alcoholism is a terminal disease comprised of four stages–the fourth being the end. According to the NIAAA, an estimated 88,000 people (62,000 men and 26,000 women) die annually from alcohol-related deaths. This makes alcoholism the third leading cause of preventable death in the United States.

End-stage alcoholism carries defining physical markers and symptoms. Though it is not irreversible, it is very difficult to treat and has a high mortality rate. There are many ways it can kill, and most involve a significant amount of suffering.

Estimated 88,000 people die from alcohol

There is always hope though. Addiction-related medicine and treatment have come leaps and bounds through the 21st century, and if the patient is willing to try and recovery, anything is possible.

Of course, the sooner a person looks to get treatment, the easier the disease and its many complications are to treat. Knowing what to look for in a person who may be suffering from alcoholism is imperative. If the chronically addicted are to get help, they must first know they are chronically addicted.

The Development of End-Stage Alcoholism

The Development of End-Stage Alcoholism

No one simply wakes up one morning with end-stage, chronic, terminal alcoholism. Like all other types of addiction, alcoholism develops in stages. Knowing what stage of alcoholism  yourself or a loved one is in can allow you to gauge the level of treatment that might be necessary to ensure a proper and healthy recovery.

There are several schools of thought on how many stages of addiction there truly are, but most prevailing and popular theories recognize that there are four. Following is a brief description of each:

  • Stage 1: This is typically referred to as the experimental stage. Here, people will use a substance such as alcohol for the first few times out of curiosity or due to other factors such as peer pressure or a rite of passage. There is generally no change in behavior and substance use is contained. Most people without addiction problems never progress beyond the first stage.  
  • Stage 2: Referred to as the social stage. In this stage, someone is likely to use in a social situation or for acceptance in a certain context (such as on a date, or at a football game). Here, the person still feels normal and contains the substance use to social situations, though there can be signs of developing dependence that the budding alcoholic might not recognize.
  • Stage 3: Typically referred to as the instrumental stage. In this stage, undeniable substance abuse appears. Many prevailing examples of it shine through, such as drinking to numb emotions, to cope with day to day challenges, or for any specific purpose. As the use escalates, tolerance will develop and more alcohol will need to be drank to attain the desired result. As tolerance grows, dependence develops and a person’s social settings are limited to where the substance use is acceptable. There is a fear of being without the substance.
  • Stage 4: The compulsive stage is the stage of full-blown addiction. Here, a person’s main preoccupation in life is the use of the substance, and he or she will do anything to get it. Shame develops and the person will attempt to hide the fact that he or she is drinking compulsively. Social circumstances deteriorate and a cycle of loss emerges. The addict loses or shuns employment, friends, and family. Health begins to degrade.

Alcoholics develop a serious physical dependency on the drug as well as the psychological dependence, which makes them particularly hard to treat. This also comes with a host of symptoms that are unique to the alcoholic in the late stage of alcoholism.

Physical Symptoms of Alcohol Withdrawal

Physical Symptoms of Alcohol Withdrawal

One of the primary physical symptoms of late stage alcoholism is that the alcoholic is chronically drunk. If the person is not drunk, he or she is likely in a state of withdrawal. Alcohol withdrawal comes with a host of symptoms that are generally easy to identify. A person is likely dealing with end-stage alcoholism if he or she shows signs of:

  • Enlarged, dilated pupils with a sensitivity to light
  • Severe headaches
  • Clammy, pale skin
  • Loss of appetite, and subsequently, weight
  • Nausea and vomiting
  • Rapid heartbeat
  • Shaking and Tremors
  • Hallucinations
  • Excessive sweating
  • Seizures

Make no mistake about it. Alcohol withdrawal in an end-stage alcoholic can absolutely be fatal, and should be done under medical supervision. Seizures occur in over 5% of patients suffering from abrupt cessation of alcohol after years of heavy use. Most seizures occur within four days’ cessation of alcohol. If the alcoholic makes it through the first four days without a seizure, chances are reduced by 90% that he or she will have one.

Cardiac Complications from End-Stage Alcoholism

There are also cardiac complications to consider in the end-stage alcoholic. The heart is being damaged by alcohol while the alcoholic is still drinking. However, if the alcoholic happens to stop drinking for any extended period of time, the autonomic nervous system causes the person’s heart rate to skyrocket. Since the heart is already likely in poor condition due to years of nutritional and physical neglect, there is a significantly increased chance of a myocardial infarction, or heart attack.

Alcoholic cardiomyopathy comes with warning signs and symptoms. The late-stage alcoholic should see a physician immediately if he or she suffers from:

  • Shortness of breath
  • Swelling of the feet, legs, and ankles
  • Fatigue
  • Weakness
  • Dizziness or fainting
  • Loss of appetite
  • A weak or irregular pulse

Alcoholic cardiomyopathy often proves fatal. It should be treated immediately.

Alcoholic Liver Disease

Alcoholic Liver Disease can have a much more rapid onset than previously thought. Though many people can manage to drink without ever damaging their livers, there is now evidence that once a threshold has been reached, damage will occur.

Thankfully, the liver is the only internal organ that can regenerate. Unfortunately, it can only do so much. The liver of an end-stage alcoholic generally endures more than is can be expected to and come out healthy. Alcoholic Liver Disease often leads to hepatitis or cirrhosis, which is a scarring of tissues of the liver. The liver cannot heal cirrhosis.

Many end-stage alcoholics die from liver disease.

Signs and symptoms of liver disease are:

  • Accumulation of fluid in the legs (edema)
  • Accumulation of fluid in the abdomen (ascites)
  • Jaundice of the skin, mucous membranes, or whites of the eyes
  • Redness of the palms of the hands
  • In men, testicle shrinking and growth of breasts
  • Easy bruising and abnormal bleeding

If you or someone you know and care about is suffering from any of those signs, contact your physician immediately.

Wet Brain, or Alcoholic Brain Damage

Wet Brain, or Alcoholic Brain Damage

Also known as Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome, wet brain is a neurological condition found in end-stage alcoholics. It develops due to a thiamine (vitamin B1) deficiency. Thiamine is an essential nutrient not created by the body. A person must consume it to reach their daily amount.

Alcoholics typically have a poor diet, and alcohol also suppresses the breakdown and use of thiamin by the body. It does so by suppressing the enzyme that moves thiamine to an active state and also actively removes thiamin from the liver. Thiamine is essential to the production of several neurotransmitters in the brain, and without adequate thiamine, the tissue of the brain begins to deteriorate.

Wet brain is the accumulation of two separate syndromes. The symptoms can vary depending on whether the person is suffering from Wernicke’s encephalopathy or Korsakoff’s psychosis.

Wernicke’s encephalopathy symptoms include:

  • Confusion
  • Loss of mental activity that can lead to coma or death
  • Loss of muscle coordination that can lead to a slow, unsteady gait
  • Severe memory impairment

Symptoms of Wet Brain

The NIAAA estimates that 90% of alcoholics suffering from Wernicke’s go on to develop Korsakoff’s as well. Korsakoff’s symptoms include:

  • Vision changes
  • Drooping eyelids
  • Violent outbursts
  • Hallucinations
  • Confusion

Alcoholic wet brain is not curable or reversible. It is fatal in up to 20% of cases. However, if a physician catches the condition in time for treatment, the progression of the disease can be slowed or possibly stopped. This is only if the patient can manage to quit drinking.

Treatment for Wet Brain

End-Stage Alcoholism Life Expectancy

Once a patient has been diagnosed with any of the comorbidities that occur with end-stage alcoholism, life expectancy can be as short as six months. Many hospitals that will perform liver transplants on end stage alcoholics require a period of six months’ abstinence. It is unfortunate that many alcoholics at this point in their drinking careers cannot achieve six months’ abstinence. The disease is generally fatal by the time it reaches this point.

Recovery from End-Stage Alcoholism is Possible

Recovery from End-Stage Alcoholism is Possible

Statistics are grim for the final days of an alcoholic. There is a point of no return as far as what the body can handle from alcohol consumption. However, even though alcoholism develops into a chronic, compulsive condition, it can be reversed. Recovery is possible.

With a strong support group and steady rehabilitation program, some people can make a full recovery from alcoholism. So long as it has not passed the point of no return, there is always hope. After a supervised medical detox to overcome the physical dependency to alcohol, the patient can begin to work on the underlying issues that they have long been masking with their substance abuse.

However, even if the alcoholic has passed the point of no return and is going to die from his or her alcoholism, stopping can still have benefits. First, it can absolutely prolong the life of the patient. How long it extends the patient’s life varies with a number of factors, such as how much damage has already been done when they stop, how good the medical care is that the patient is receiving, and last but not least, how strong the fight still is in the patient.

When faced with this grim fate, if the patient decides to finally overcome his or her alcoholism, he or she can go to grave knowing that they have finally beat the demon that has kept him or her down for so long. They can also manage to enjoy their last few days on this planet to their fullest if they are sober.

At this point, quality of life matters over quantity. For a disease that robs someone of their quality of life, stopping, even when facing the inevitable, is a victory. That victory can lead the mindset of the patient to improve immensely, even at the end.

If you or someone you know is suffering from alcoholism, don’t let it get to this point. You are worth fighting for. Recovery is always possible, no matter how far into your illness you are. Sometimes we just have to change our definition of recovery a bit, and that’s okay.

And in all likelihood, if you are considering trying to stop drinking, you are not past the point of no return. Talk to your doctor if you are physically addicted to alcohol, and don’t make any rash, reactionary decisions. You can quit. You just need to be smart about it.  

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End Stage of Alcoholism

December 17th, 2017|41 Comments

41 Comments

  1. Sandra McGuire March 9, 2018 at 1:45 pm - Reply

    My sister is at end stage alcoholism and she refuses help. The doctors told her and the rest of the family that she has 6 to 12 months to live. This article is true.

    • Ashwood Recovery March 15, 2018 at 5:29 pm - Reply

      So sad to hear about your sister. Sending you hugs. This disease takes and takes.

  2. Juanita Montague April 17, 2018 at 12:58 am - Reply

    i dont know what to do my son was Raped at the age of 6 years for 5 years never new that ,, I trusted my brother , now my son is always drunking he wont stop he is dying his belly is so big mind you he is 6 foot 190 was in good shape dont know what to do ,, he wont let me help him ..

  3. leigh April 25, 2018 at 11:33 am - Reply

    My dear friend was just diagnosed. It’s been coming on for a couple of years. Not working (living on inheritance) for the last five years and with family/friends held at her bay she declined rapidly. She hide herself away so no one would see/know her drinking quantity. She is 51 and has now lost the ablitiy to care (or drive) for herself, she must go into assisted living with monitored care. She has been committed until arrangements can be made. It’s a sad horrible truth to face.

  4. bryan May 11, 2018 at 2:01 pm - Reply

    would love to know how to get someone commited?

    my brother drinks a litre of raw vodka a day,has korsikoff,and basically dosent care anymore.

    • Ashwood Recovery May 25, 2018 at 4:45 pm - Reply

      Sorry to hear about your brother, and that is definitely concerning. You would have to check your local laws and facilities to find out what it would take to get him committed. Wishing you both the best!

      • Robin Blanton September 10, 2018 at 6:51 pm - Reply

        My brother went into the emergency room because he felt faint, nauseated, and confused. Aug. 9,2018. He was diagnosed with encephalopathy. The hospital transferred him directly to a nursing home. His girlfriend had informed the hospital she was taking him home and the Social worker of the hospital stated she would call the hotline and report her for taking advantage of a disabled person that cannot make decisions for himself and a threat to himself. We plan to seek a 24 HR. Memory care facility until he happens to get better. He still ask for alcohol everyday. The nursing home is the safest he has ever been. Our family is saddened by this development.

        • Ashwood Recovery September 16, 2018 at 4:29 pm - Reply

          Sorry to hear about your brother! Alcoholism is a terrible disease! Wishing you and your family the best!

  5. Roscoe May 18, 2018 at 7:18 pm - Reply

    Juanita I’m sorry to hear that you and your son were raped by your father and his brother alcohol is not the answer although I can see why you would do it and it’s really hard to blame you for being drunk all the time maybe it’s time to have the law come down on your father and your uncle anyway good luck!

  6. Mar May 21, 2018 at 4:01 am - Reply

    I feel for all of you posting on this article or reading this because someone you love needs help or because you need help. Unfortunately, I am reading all of this too late. My Dad just died of alcoholism and it is a horrible monster of a disease. Please know that if you or your loved one is still alive then there is still hope and you must get help. If it’s past the point of no return, I would say just to let the person know that you love them. Because once they are gone it’s too late. We tried “tough love” too late for my Dad …we didnt realize he was already in fatal stage and we wish we would’ve been more loving instead of trying to change him.

    • Ashwood Recovery May 22, 2018 at 2:56 am - Reply

      So sorry to hear about your dad, but thank you for sharing your thoughts with everyone. Wishing the best for you and your family!

    • Kelly May 31, 2018 at 11:53 pm - Reply

      Im 52 and feel your pain. My dad is 78 and is in end stage. Im living with him now for lastyear. He drinks all day everyday and is mean antagonistic wo t pay bills. Ive been doing this since i was 15 when my mom died. Hes stolen money and social sec payments . i still try but when i bring it up he says mean things. Im leaving. Ive called police adult and u name it. I cant take the abuse. He wont shower. Its horrible desease but enough is enougn.

  7. Chris May 31, 2018 at 4:31 pm - Reply

    hello, I have a friend who appears to have “Wet Brain”. She had gastric bypass a few years ago , which may be a contributing factor. She got into a rehab program but they sent her home because she’s so confused and can’t follow the directions they give her. Do any facilities treat wet brain first, then let the person go through rehab? Her family is falling apart and she can’t seem to understand the situation she’s in.

    • Ashwood Recovery June 2, 2018 at 3:31 am - Reply

      Sorry you are having such a hard time getting assistance for your friend. If you have any questions about our services and what we provide or how we do it – please do reach out to us at info@ashwoodrecovery.com

  8. Amanda June 13, 2018 at 12:38 pm - Reply

    This article is so true and its so sad cause I just lost my dad last month may 5th…he drank really bad when I was growing up and finally quit for 17 years was doing so good we have no idea why he had a set back after all these years but we all found out he started back drinking in October of 2017 it went from straight liquor to a case of beer a day none of us really knew if he was suffering always kept to himself. He was 70 and we begged him to stop and he would always answer i can’t stop.. He died so suddenly that morning he was gone before he fell on the floor.. I never thought he would do something so hurtful to his self and leave the people he loved behind.. I honestly still to this day say what was hurting him so bad why didn’t he say he was suffering could I have helped him somehow… I don’t know how bad he was suffering or did he know and feel like it was the end for him. So many unanswered question that will always be in the back of my head. If you know of anyone needing help don’t wait till its the end for them to do something push it till they get help and save another life before its too late.

    • Ashwood Recovery June 15, 2018 at 5:13 pm - Reply

      Thanks so much for this insightful information. Wishing you and your family peace after your dad’s unanswered questions. Alcoholism is a terrible disease and since he was unable to speak up about what the underlying issues were, or even just about his addiction, sounds like he was unable to get the help he desperately needed. Thank you for sharing!

  9. Brandi Hilbun June 15, 2018 at 1:17 am - Reply

    My husband is an alcoholic. We found out about a year ago that he has cirrhosis. However, he chose to keep drinking. It went from
    His pancreas to his gallbladder and now he had a recent procedure for esophagus bleeding that required 4 bands being placed on his veins. This just took place two weeks ago. Today made two full weeks without any alcohol. Which is a HUGE accomplishment for him considering he drank a 12 pack a day and sometimes mixed whiskey when he could “sneak” it.. well today I get home from work and found out he drank 4 beers. It’s very heartbreaking considering he was told that if he didn’t stop drinking the doctors gave him 6 months, and that was being generous. I’m hurt and very upset because I feel as usual that the kids and I are the ones that continue to pay the price for this horrible addiction that he has, but yet he is still being selfish in doing it. I have been dealing with this for 24 years and all I want is to enjoy what time we may have left together with him being sober. I don’t think that’s to much to ask! Alcoholism is a horrible disease and if you don’t have it or have never been through it with someone you love it’s hard to understand it. And so many people are quick to judge and point fingers when they don’t understand the addiction!

    • Ashwood Recovery June 15, 2018 at 5:27 pm - Reply

      Brandi you are absolutely correct that others will never understand Alcoholism until they or someone close to them are affected. Sorry that your husband has chosen to drink again after 2 weeks of sobriety. Have you checked into rehab or other options for him? Ashwood Recovery can help – if you want more information please visit us at https://www.ashwoodrecovery.com/contact-us.php – wishing you and your family the best!

  10. Alison June 27, 2018 at 1:35 pm - Reply

    My partner appears to be at the end stages of his alcoholism. His memory is severely impaired, he hallucinates, makes up false stories and has violent outbursts. This goes on daily. He has not worked in over 8 years. I have lost all my friends and really have no support. Today is his 54th birthday and he began the morning by downing a 6 pack. I went to work and fully expect him to be trash talking drunk when I arrive back home.. He gets his booze money from an inheritance. He drinks to oblivion every single day. Weekends with him are the worst. He has no intention of stopping and I am just waiting for him to die. That sounds harsh but I am living in my own hell by having to endure all that his throws my way. Basically, he has trashed my house and I am just at the end of my rope. Talking to him is impossible because all conversations result in him screaming at me and calling me some very rude names. I feel completely numb inside. My only way out will be when he is in a pine box with his case of beer.

    • Ashwood Recovery July 26, 2018 at 3:56 am - Reply

      So sorry that you are feeling helpless. I know you have tried talking to him, but it might be worth trying again or taking other action. Wishing you the best for your future!

    • Kat August 16, 2018 at 1:17 pm - Reply

      You’ve just written my life. It’s constant… Calling me the most horrible things everyday, trying to goad out teenage son into a fistfight. I’m at the point that when his drinking does kill him, then he can’t hurt me, or his children anymore.

    • G August 21, 2018 at 8:01 pm - Reply

      I felt like I was reading a page from my own life when I read this… my BF is the same way except his drink of choice is anything 100 proof. He doesn’t work, trashes the house, and expects me to take care of everything. I don’t live with him, thank goodness, but weekends when I’m there feel like hell sometimes. I get yelled at and called names also, I don’t know how much more I can take.

    • Jennifer Sikula September 13, 2018 at 1:37 am - Reply

      I feel your pain. I lost my beloved husband this past April; I was only able to live with him on & off for the past 2 years because I was so angry at him, emotionally devastated, depressed, etc. He, like your husband, had gotten an inheritance, So he no longer had to work. Do not feel guilty about wishing that he would pass away already as it is so hard to see your loved one that way.; they themselves want to be dead; at least that was the way w/ my husband. I refer to his last 2 mos. as “ passive suicide” He had TOTALLY given up; I tried all avenues- EMT’s, mobile mental health unit, adult protective services, his AA FRIENDS, our pastor . I finally told him that he “ either had to agree to go to the hospital ( edema was moving up his body, up to his abdomen; all judgement & reasoning gone ; TOTAL loss of hygiene & would not allow anyone to help him get to bathroom or clean him up or wear a Depends; etc) or we needed to start planning his funeral. He chose to start planning his funeral… he passed 3 wks later.
      Hugs to you.😢

    • Jennifer Sikula September 13, 2018 at 1:42 am - Reply

      Oh, and one more thing, AlAnon was literally a lifesaver for me! I contemplated killing myself several times because he convinced me that I was the one who had caused him to drink after being sober for 19 years.

  11. Charlotte June 29, 2018 at 4:43 am - Reply

    My child’s father recently had a liver transplant due to a completely cirrhotic liver(9/2017). Prior to the operation he was severely jaundice, had to be drained, swelling, esophageal varicies multiple times and multiple bands. About 3 weeks after his surgery I caught him drinking and it has since taken on a life of its own. He is on disability, however, failed to refile the paperwork so has temporarily lost the benefits for himself, our child, and his 2 other sons from his soon to be ex wife. His drink of choice is vodka and he continuously drinks to the point where it’s been reported to be at .39 and .38(per recent arrest records). He has destroyed all life around him and broke our child’s heart… he no longer is allowed to see any of his children and doesn’t seem to know what’s even going on… he is 38 years old. How much longer can he live like this? We have continuously been “over supportive” throughout these years and for sure have taken active roles as enablers. However, we stopped this as of recent… does anyone know from experience how long someone with a new liver can survive on a diet of straight vodka?? He for sure has wet brain and seems to not give a shit about anything more honestly now… this has been by far the ugliest event in our lives to co star in. Any advice would be helpful.

    • Ashwood Recovery July 26, 2018 at 3:54 am - Reply

      Sorry you are having to go through this! Alcoholism is definitely a nasty addiction. Wishing you and your family the best.

  12. Anonym July 21, 2018 at 9:06 pm - Reply

    (I’m from Slovakia so sorry – my English won’t be correct)
    I’m 21. My father is an alcoholic for circa 10 years, maybe more. He has a beer three times a day, everyday, for those 10 years. He often combine this with Vodka or other “hard” alcohol. We can’t even have bottles or wine or other bottles, which we have stored for friends or for celebrations – he just open it and drink it. He has no job, no money, he’s drinking to debt. As far as I remember for those last 10 years he never bought nothing for nobody – nothing for me, nothing for my mother, nothing for whole family or for household.
    This month he was diagnosed with cancer of tongue (or neck, I don’t know how to describe that part of body into English). I guess he’s in last stage. I wasn’t crying when he was diagnosed by that – I just knew it’ll happen. Maybe it will sound morbid or nihilistic, but I’m just waiting for that to be over. He doesn’t want any cure, nothing.
    I cross fingers for your Recovery. I hope you’ll help people or protect them not to fall into this.
    I don’t know what else to say. It’s night, I’m doing my bachelor work while my father – is drunk again.

    • Ashwood Recovery July 26, 2018 at 3:32 am - Reply

      Thank you for sharing your personal story. Sorry you are going through this and have for quite some time. Wishing you and your family the best.

    • Shane August 25, 2018 at 7:11 am - Reply

      Hope you can one day have a family of your own and treat them right. Take care… Life is not easy but you are worth fighting for.

  13. Cris July 29, 2018 at 4:38 am - Reply

    So I’ve been dating this guy for 4 years. He has lost his “good job” and cant hold any other for more than about 2 months max. He lives in a house his parents own and they keep up the Bill’s when he cant. He is 49 yrs old he binge drinks…I believe.thats what he does. He will go anywhere between 2 to 6 weeks sober then for 2 to 3 weeks straight…I mean 24/7 on a constant slumber. He will wake up drink straight bourbon or vodka and back to sleep. He has been to rehab many times e.r. several times seems like all blood work comes back normal..I dont see how? Bac levels 5.0 and above! He dont shower doesn’t have water intake and very little food… what I want to know is how long can a person live or recover like this??? Theres nothing I can do…believe me I have tried.

    • Ashwood Recovery September 8, 2018 at 6:36 pm - Reply

      Thank you for sharing your story! For an addict to change, they have to want to make that change. If he is ready to become sober and needs help, feel free to reach out to us! https://www.ashwoodrecovery.com/contact-us.php

  14. Dawn August 2, 2018 at 12:51 am - Reply

    It’s so hard to read all these stories and recognizing that I am on the same road.
    I went and saw a therapist today for me. He asked what I wanted out of the sessions. I had to think about it for a minute but then realized I want to know how to live with my alcoholic husband. He is not going to quit drinking and I’m not ready to quit my marriage. I’m also not willing to quit living my life.
    Tomorrow night I’m going to my first Alanon meeting for me.

    • Ashwood Recovery September 8, 2018 at 6:32 pm - Reply

      So glad that this article resonated with you. Wishing you and your family the best on your journey!

  15. Omar August 19, 2018 at 7:01 am - Reply

    My name is omar I’m 26 n gay and an alcoholic. I have been trying to quit for the longest. I honestly think I’m at the last stage already. Everything hurts inside, I have spitted out blood before and My skin looks like it has a rash it’s all red . I have lost many jobs and got distant from my family . I have been depressed all my life since coming out at 16 and also because I also been single all my life i feel so lonely .And to make things worse alcohol turns me into a s**t . I have unprotected sex when I’m drunk with random guys I meet online and i never see them again . Then the next day I feel terrible . Sober me would never do that . Also because of alcohol I got HIV at 24 and I dont even know who gave it to me? . So that made my depression even worse and I started drinking even more. So i still continue meeting guys for unprotected sex while drunk i never liked drugs so my problem is not drugs. i have tried them all but their not for me ,my problem is alcohol and its destroying me , I know I have a problem and I have gone to AA but it dont work for me . I keep falling back to drinking . Its so hard . I want to quit I really do. I’m drunk every day. I have had suicidal before so I’m also worried that I might go ahead with them when I’m really drunk . My neighbor and ex coworker are also like me alcoholics and depressed. So we hang out a lot and get drunk . So I know that doesnt help me. I just dont know what to do I feel worthless like I’m not good for nothing . I cry myself every night too sleep. I just dont know what to do anymore…

  16. Jim Choate September 2, 2018 at 12:48 am - Reply

    Help I’m watching my twin brother die. He has no insurance and needs rehab. He looks so bad I cry . Eyes literally swimming in different directions. Can hardly walk even when he’s not been drinking and loss of coordination. Tearing family apart. Sadly what I’m learning is even if he’s willing to go somewhere for the most part treatment is more about $ than getting someone in ASAP. Very frustrating, wish I could simply make a call talk to someone and they would readily accept him in somewhere or find a bed. But it’s not that easy . Always hear some sort of problem . I need someone to tell yes Bring him , today, now and we will treat him . I need to be able to bring him somewhere immediately.

  17. Kelly September 4, 2018 at 3:43 am - Reply

    My mother has been in and out of the hospital for several falls. During her last stint as an inpatien that required 3 blood transfusions, I asked social workers to come in and help her to a rehab directly from the hospital–she refused. She then called me and told me to stop it and have them stop bothering her. Well, now Mom is back home and fell again. My father called 911. The police visited and said they can not bring her to hospital if she refuses. I am at a loss. She has all the symptoms of wet brain. Is there anything else, I can do? I feel like it is time to give up as it has taken quite a toll on me and rest of family. How do people deal with this? So sad. So angry. So frustrated. So to the point that I prayed for her to die in peace and comfort. I never dreamed anything like this could happen.

    • Ashwood Recovery September 8, 2018 at 5:40 pm - Reply

      So sorry to hear about what you and your family is dealing with! Hoping you can get some help for your mom soon. Wishing the best for you and your family!

  18. Loving family member September 9, 2018 at 2:49 am - Reply

    Families…keep trying to help your loved one, don’t become an enabler. We lost a valuable family member this week due to alcoholism. It destroyed the person, hurt the person’s family, contributed to a divorce, affected employment, hurt family / friends around the person, and unfortunately it eventually contributed to the person’s death. We don’t get a second chance. Once the doctors diagnosed a 3 months mark, it was spot on. Family member didn’t make it passed it. I don’t know how they know, but doctors with their experience & knowledge know. I plead with you to keep trying. Ultimately I acknowledge it is up to the addicted family member, but don’t go down without a fight. For us, it’s heartbreaking as it’s too late.

    • Ashwood Recovery September 16, 2018 at 4:38 pm - Reply

      Sorry to hear about your loss! You are absolutely correct that no one should give up, including us! We will continue to raise awareness in the hopes of saving more! Wishing you and your family the best moving forward.

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