The 12 Steps of AA Explained

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The 12 Steps of AA has changed so much for alcoholics all over the world. It has allowed them to fully embrace the concept of recovering from alcoholism. What’s more, it has given them a supportive group of peers all working toward the same goal.

“The feeling of having shared in a common peril is one element in the powerful cement which binds us.”

~The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

Since 1935, generations of problem drinkers have been aided by Alcoholics Anonymous, the fellowship group comprised of alcoholics helping other alcoholics. In 1953, the group Narcotics Anonymous was founded, based upon the same principles as AA.

12 Steps of AA

Since that time, over 200 other fellowship groups have been formed to address a plethora of addictions – Sexaholics Anonymous, Cocaine Anonymous, Gamblers Anonymous, Overeaters Anonymous, and the like.

All of these programs follow a version of “The 12 Steps of AA” – the guiding principles outlining how to recover from compulsive, out-of-control behaviors and restore manageability to one’s life.

Here are the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, with an explanation of the significance of each step.

The First Step 

We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.”

Step 1

Addiction experts are quick to say that a person has to admit there is a problem before recovery can truly begin. But the First Step of the 12 Steps of AA means more than this – it means finally rejecting the denial and self-deception that so often accompanies addiction.

In the First Step, the addicted person has to accept the fact that their addiction is beyond their control. With that admission comes the realization that “their” way of doing things simply isn’t working.  And once the suffering addict/alcoholic realizes THAT, they can be more receptive to the idea that they will need help to recover.

There are two crucial words in the First Step:

  • Powerless – This means that the person has lost control over their consumption of drugs and/or alcohol. They no longer can regulate when or how much they consume. The addiction is in charge.

The important thing to consider about powerlessness is this – it means that it is impossible to drink or use drugs “safely”. It also means that sobriety is not a matter of “having more willpower” or “trying harder”.

  • Unmanageable – This means that the drinking/drug use is having a negative impact on the rest of the person’s life:
    • Health problems
    • Relationship issues
    • Legal difficulties
    • Feelings of guilt, shame, and remorse

The Second Step

Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.”

Step 2

There are two considerations for the Second Step of the 12 Steps of AA.

First and foremost, the Second Step is about HOPE. Rather than being resigned to a hellish downward spiral of addiction, a person comes to understand that recovery IS possible.

In other words, although the struggling addict/alcoholic has no control over THEIR compulsion, that doesn’t mean that there is not a solution.

So the second consideration of this Step is that it is possible to gain strength, inspiration, and guidance from something outside of and greater than one’s self – IF stubborn ego can be laid aside.

In other words, when you can temporarily make yourself subordinate to someone or something that is helping you, it is possible to be guided in the right direction.

The Third Step

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”

Step 3

The first two Steps were about reflection – but the Third Step of the 12 Steps of AA is about action. At its simplest, this Step means deciding to get out of your own way.

For some non-religious people, the Third Step can be problematic, which is why “God as we understoodHim” is important. Your Higher Power does not have to be a deity.  It can also be:

  • The recovery process itself
  • Medical and mental health professionals
  • The innate strength of human nature
  • Your support system
  • The fellowship you receive from other addicts/alcoholics

The exact nature of your Higher Power is personal – it only has to be something outside of and greater than yourself in which you can place your faith.

There are four parts to “turning your will over” –

  • Asking for help, and not just at the beginning of the First Step. Surrender your ego and be willing to ask for help anytime you feel overwhelmed during your recovery.
  • Learning to pray, which simply means having a conversation with Who or What is helping you – sharing your thoughts, asking questions, and expressing gratitude.
  • Learning to meditate, which means taking the time every day to reflect on the things that happen to you, what you learned, and what you might like to do differently. Processing your experiences and emotions can help you learn to change for the better.
  • Practicing acceptance, which means finding a way to meet life on life’s terms, rather than trying futility to control things that are beyond you. When you concentrate on those things that you CAN control, you are better able to focus on doing what needs to be done to recover.

The Fourth Step

Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”

Step 4

In this Step, you continue to eliminate opportunities for denial by taking an honest – and sometimes uncomfortable – at yourself, your behavior when drinking/using, and the effect it has, both on yourself and upon others.

Why is this so important?

Before you can ever attempt to change your behaviors and attitudes, you have to know what needs changing. This inventory is not just about finding out your weaknesses – those things that need changing. It is also about uncovering your strengths – those positive traits that you can expand upon.

Your personal inventory must be:

  • Fearless – as you face truth about yourself that you may not like. But only by acknowledging your faults can you take steps to correct them.
  • Searching – as you sincerely take time to examine your thoughts, words, and deeds. To this end, it is a good idea to write your inventory down.
  • Moral – as you weigh those thoughts, words, and deeds against an objective standard of what is right against your own selfish desires.

The Fifth Step

Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.”

Step 5

This Step is absolutely necessary after a moral inventory. A person who has taken an unflinching look at the harm that their addicted behaviors have done can sometimes be tormented by that knowledge. Without productive relief, that torment can lead to old, destructive ways of coping – drinking and using.

Talking to someone else can help alleviate negative feelings of shame and guilt. When you unburden yourself of the weight of your past, you free yourself up to move forward unimpeded. Often, you will find that you are not so unique in your imperfection.

The old saying is that “confession is good for the soul“, and this is especially true for addicts and alcoholics.

The Sixth Step

Were entirely ready to have God remove all of these defects of character.”

Step 6

This is one of the more difficult Steps of the 12 Steps of AA, because it is the culmination of everything that has come before. This is where you let go of those behaviors and attitudes that are holding you back.

The reason that this step is so difficult is because often, those behaviors and attitudes that are being let go have been the only ways to cope that you have ever known. Sometimes, it means relearning a whole new way to interact with the world.

This Step is not about perfection – it is about getting better. Throughout the course of your recovery, you will find yourself repeating the Sixth Step several times.

The Seventh Step

Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.”

Step 7

This Step is very much like the Third Step, but it is more specific. Now that a moral inventory has been completed, we see ourselves as we truly are, both the good and the bad.

The truth is many of our shortcomings are intertwined with our addictions. And, because we are powerless over the addiction, we are often just as powerless to overcome our shortcomings on our own.

This is where the key concept of Step Seven of the 12 Steps of AA – humility – comes in.

When we are humble, we admit when our way of doing things isn’t working and when we need help to overcome specific problems in our lives.

There are three reasons why humility is so important in this Step:

  • It allows us to recognize the severity of our defects. Without that humility, it is possible that we will underestimate or minimize the impact of our actions.
  • It allows us to recognize our own limits. We have to be humble enough to understand that alone, our intellect, our reasoning, and our willpower are not enough to overcome our addiction.
  • It allows us to comprehend the enormity of our Higher Power’s ability to transform our lives. Humility allows us to come to the realization that there is something greater than both ourselves AND our addiction. And, because it IS greater, that Higher Power can restore us to sanity.

The Eighth Step

Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.”

Step 8

The Fourth Step was about personal housecleaning, but the Eighth Step of the 12 Steps of AA is about social housecleaning. It is about recognizing the wreckage that you have left in your wake while you were actively addicted.

In order to continue moving forward, you have to acknowledge the role you may have played in hurting others. When you become willing to repair the damage you have done, you again reduce the destructive pain, anger, hurt, and resentment that addiction causes.

It is the willingness to make amends that is important, because as you will see in the Ninth Step, it is not always possible to make reparations…

The Ninth Step

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.”

Step 9

Like so many other interlocking Steps, the Eighth Step of the 12 Steps of AA was chiefly about contemplation, while this Step is about action. Now that we know what we have done and who we have done it to, we have to take action to right our wrongs.

This is a difficult, but necessary Step. Difficult, because “direct” means face-to-face and in person. We have to face those we have wronged, take responsibility for the harm we have caused, and try to make up for that harm in some tangible way. Making amends is more than just apologizing.

It is necessary because it starts to clean up the messes we have left behind. Since recovery is all about moving forward, making amends for the wrongs we have done lets us “balance our books”, so we owe nothing from our addicted past. It allows us to have a fresh start.

A word about “wherever possible”–

Sometimes, reconnecting personally with someone we have harmed in the past can reopen old wounds or cause difficulties in someone else’s current life. For example:

  • Seeing an ex in person can cause them embarrassment or problems in their current relationship.
  • A person you may have physically harmed might be traumatized by your presence.
  • Confessing to some criminal act you may have committed does not mean implicating others.

In such instances, it may be better to write a letter acknowledging the past harm, expressing the willingness to make amends the other person may deem necessary, and asking for forgiveness.

This Step requires that we (1) apologize, (2) try to repair our wrongs, and (3) ask for forgiveness. It does NOT require that the other person grant that forgiveness.

When we are sincere, but direct amends for forgiveness are not possible, we should simply “let go” of the burden we have been carrying around, and resolve to do better in the future in our interactions with others.

The Tenth Step

Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.”

Step 10

The tenth Step of the 12 Steps of AA is about continued growth and vigilance. In essence, is about laying the foundation for our future. When we are continually honest with ourselves, it is much easier to recognize triggers, behaviors, and attitudes that could result in a relapse.

Admitting when we are wrong allows us to continue moving forward in humility, without the denial and self-deception that addiction brings about.

It also prevents us from accumulating more emotional baggage that can slow down our recovery.

Perhaps the best thing that an ongoing personal inventory does is keep us “on track”. It keeps us from straying too far from our path of recovery.

The Eleventh Step

“Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.”

Step 11

This is a spiritual Step, but people who have reached this point have usually come to terms with the “God” language the 12 Steps of AA contains. In other words, they have already formed their own personal concept of a Higher Power.

For some, GOD is an acronym that stands for “Good Orderly Direction” – the path that they want their life to take. For others, it can even stand for a “Group Of Drunks/Druggies” – the fellowship they receive from others in their AA/NA meetings.

“Prayer and meditation” means making a conscious effort to improve our understanding of the path that our Higher Power has for us.

To be more specific, prayer means TALKING to our Higher Power – sharing our burdens, admitting our wrongs, asking for help, and expressing our gratitude.

Meditation, on the other hand, means LISTENING to that same Higher Power – putting aside our own egos and desires in order to understand what we should be doing.

The Twelfth Step

Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these Stepswe tried to carry this message to alcoholicsand to practice these principles in all our affairs.”

Step 12

This Step of the 12 Steps of AA is at once self-serving and selfless.

For yourself, there are few things that you can do that can better serve your own sobriety then by working with others who are still struggling. Being of service to others has several benefits:

  • It reminds you of where you once were and where you no longer want to be.
  • It helps hold you accountable.
  • It gives you a sense of purpose.
  • It keeps you from becoming complacent in your recovery.
  • It enhances your fellowship with others.

But on the other hand, it allows you to be of benefit to other struggling alcoholics/addicts:

  • Sometimes, a still-suffering person will trust you above others, because you understand what they are going through.
  • You have insights that may allow you to help when no one else can.
  • When you share your story, others may be inspired by your successful ongoing recovery – to the point that they are finally able to regain their own sobriety.

It is important to understand that addiction is incurable and lifelong. Recovery requires vigilance and work, one day at a time, for the rest of your life. You’ll find yourself repeating the 12 Steps of AA over and over again as a means of safeguarding your sobriety.

No, the 12 Steps of AA are not a cure for your addiction – they are guiding principles is that allow you to restore sobriety, sanity, and serenity to your life.

Questions You May Have About the 12 Steps of AA and Alcoholism Recovery

It’s normal to have several questions about the 12 Steps of AA; especially when you’re new to the program. It’s good for you to ask questions. We want you to get the answers you need so that you can begin your recovery.

The 12 Steps of AA do really work, and there are several reasons why this is. The main reason is that the 12 Steps of AA do not solely focus on not drinking alcohol. While this is a requirement for Alcoholics Anonymous participation, the program goes so much deeper than this.

The goal of the 12 Steps of AA is to change the way you think. By changing the way you think, you’ll effectively change your behaviors. All behaviors start with a single thought that eventually leads to them.

Another reason why the 12 Steps of AA is so effective is that it encourages reliance on a Higher Power. It leaves the definition of the Higher Power up to the individual. Some may be comfortable with calling their Higher Power God, while others might not be. Even so, relying on something outside of yourself is necessary in order to remain sober.

AA meetings are typically a bit more informal than people expect them to be. It’s natural for you to feel nervous if you’ve never been a part of AA before. However, you’ll likely be very relaxed when you enter your first AA meeting.

Depending on the size of the group, you may sit in a circle, or you may sit in chairs in rows. At your first meeting, you’ll feel welcome when you walk in, but you won’t feel overwhelmed or embarrassed. That is not the goal of the people at Alcoholics Anonymous. They just want you to know that they’re glad you came.

Someone will usually call the meeting to order as you begin. The first thing you do together may be going over the 12 Steps of AA. They are typically all read aloud in unison. It’s OK if you don’t know them. No one expects you to know them when you’re new.

After this, people will be given the chance to speak and share. There may be a speaker who talks the entire time. Or, the person in charge may open the meeting up to anyone who wants to share. Don’t feel pressured to talk. You are more than welcome to just sit and listen to other people share their stories.

There is usually a greeting time after the AA meeting is over. You’re welcome to stay for this and get to know some of the other participants. However, you don’t have to stay if you don’t want to.

You may find it helpful to see someone else’s experience after their first AA meeting. There’s truly nothing to worry or feel nervous about.

In general, people attend AA meetings on a weekly basis. However, there are some people who encourage attendance at 30 meetings in 30 days. This is specifically for those who are new to alcoholism recovery.

Of course, this might be something that you don’t quite feel comfortable with. Still, there is a lot to be said about going to more than one AA meeting a week. When you’re new to sobriety, you can really benefit from more frequent meetings. It will help you get accustomed to how the meetings work. Also, you’ll probably find that the more people you meet with likeminded goals, the better.

You should be prepared for the possibility that you don’t quite like the first AA meeting you choose. There could be many reasons why this might be the case. You might feel like you just don’t connect with any of the other participants. You may feel comfortable in a smaller setting, or in a larger setting.

If you don’t like your first AA meeting, it’s totally OK. That doesn’t mean you should give up on going to Alcoholics Anonymous altogether. You definitely shouldn’t. There are so many AA meetings in your city, or in your state. You should just keep trying different meetings. Before long, you’ll find one that seems like a good fit.

As you go through the 12 Steps of AA, you’ll most likely become familiar with the 12 Traditions. The 12 Traditions aren’t really covered as often outside of AA, but it’s important to know what they are.

The 12 Traditions are:

  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon AA unity.
  2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority – a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
  3. The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking.
  4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or AA as a whole.
  5. Each group has but one primary purpose – to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.
  6. An AA group out not ever endorse, finance, or lend the AA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
  7. Every AA group out to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
  8. Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
  9. AA, as such, ought never be organized, but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
  10. Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
  11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio and films.
  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities.

The 12 Traditions of AA will give you a good idea about how the organization works, overall. Each tradition is actually a guiding principle that helps Alcoholics Anonymous do the work they do.

At some point, you will be encouraged to obtain an AA sponsor. This is such an important step for you as you continue on in AA. It’s actually a vital part of the 12 Steps of AA as well.

A sponsor is someone you can turn to who will help you stay on track with your sobriety. Almost everyone who is in AA has a sponsor. It’s important to find someone you can go to without fear of embarrassment or judgment. That person should serve as a guiding light for you, and not someone who will impact you negatively.

What many people don’t realize is that AA was actually born out of the need for a sponsor. Bill W., one of the co-founders of Alcoholics Anonymous, experienced this need for himself. He had been sober for only a few months, and was suddenly struck with the urge to drink. He thought to himself that it would be helpful to have another alcoholic to talk to. He found one in Dr. Bob.

As you think about getting a sponsor, it may seem like a strange concept to you. You may think that you have plenty of friends and family you can turn to when times get tough. However, if you don’t have another alcoholic, that person isn’t going to understand your challenges. This is when sponsorship is especially helpful.

As you go through the 12 Steps of AA, you’ll see how valuable it is to have a sponsor. You need to have one in your life, and you may need one for quite some time.

What Happens After You’ve Covered All of the 12 Steps of AA?

This is a really good question. After you’ve gone through the 12 Steps of AA, you want to know, what happens next? You should know that this is not the end of the road for you. You should actually take one of two directions.

Once you’ve gone through the 12 Steps of AA, you may need to go through them again. It’s possible that there were some issues that you needed to work out in your life, but you didn’t. Perhaps you couldn’t because of some rough relationships from your past. Don’t feel you’re ready to quit AA just because you’ve gone through the 12 Steps of AA one time. You may need more time to think about the different Steps you’ve just learned. You may need additional time to put them into practice in your own life.

The other direction you may want to consider is to become a sponsor yourself. Think back to the time when you first started Alcoholics Anonymous. It’s possible that the 12 Steps of AA seemed entirely foreign to you. You’re thankful for your sponsor, who helped to see you through each Step and support you. Someone else may need you to do that for them.

How do I Find an AA Meeting Near Me?

Now that you’ve gone over all of this information, you might be ready to take the next step. You’re wondering, how can I find an AA meeting near me?. No matter where you’re located in the world, it’s easy to find a local AA meeting. The Alcoholics Anonymous website has a great search tool that can assist you. You’ll easily be able to locate one in your city, or in a city nearby.

Remember, you may not completely fall in love with your very first AA meeting. If you’re not connecting, keep looking and searching. Somewhere out there, there is an AA meeting that will be just right for you.

Do You Need More Information About the 12 Steps of AA?

If you need more information about the 12 Steps of AA, we’d love to help you. Perhaps you have questions that we didn’t answer here. Feel free to leave us a comment below and we’ll be happy to answer your questions.

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